- What is single parenthood?
- What are the causes of single parenthood?
- The benefits of single parenthood
- Tips for being a single parent
- Celebrities on single parenthood
While we appreciate that being part of a single parent family can have its trials and tribulations, it can also be deeply satisfying and bring moments of true joy and achievement. We want to highlight the benefits of being a single parent and offer tips on how to stay positive when day-to-day life can seem overwhelming.
What is single parenthood?
Single parenthood is when there is one parent who lives with one or more dependents and does not have a wife, husband or live-in partner. Also known as lone-parent families, there were 2.9 million in the UK in 2019.
Also reported in 2019, single parenting statistics showed that the average age of single mothers was 38, while it was 45 for single fathers and around 1% of single parents were teenagers.
As far as single mother statistics go, nine in ten lone-parent families are headed by a single mother. 🤹♀️
What are the causes of single parenthood?
There are many causes of single parenthood, such as:
And while some of these causes, of course, bring sadness and difficulties to a single parent household, we should also remember that some people become single parents by choice.
A growing number of adults are choosing to adopt, foster or use IVF; in fact, the Department for Education ‘Children looked after in England’ statistics show that during the year ending on 31st March 2020, 11% of children adopted were taken on by single adopters.
Also reporting an increase, the independent UK organisation, Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority, stated that the use of IVF by single patients increased from 41% in 2008 to 57% in 2018. Sally Cheshire, the organisation’s Chair said: “In recent years we’ve seen changes in the reasons why people are using fertility treatment, with the biggest percentage increases amongst those in female same-sex relationships and single women. The increase is still small in terms of patient numbers but reflects an increasing shift in society’s changing attitudes towards family creation and relationships.”
The benefits of being a single parent
While it may often feel overwhelming and like you’re not meeting all your child’s needs, remember that every family is different and whether you’re a single parent by choice or not, your child has the same chances of growing up to be a well-rounded individual as any other child.
Here are some of the benefits of being a single parent; refer to these when you’re having “one of those days”.
You make all the decisions
Spearheading a lone-parent family means that all choices are on you, and that doesn’t need to be as daunting as it sounds! From which school they attend to what they have for dinner, you have complete liberation to make those decisions without double-checking with anyone. Apart from your little one, of course. 😉
You’ll form a powerful bond
You’re sure to form a super-special bond with your child as you are the main caregiver. Think of all the one-on-one quality time you’ll spend with them and the beautiful memories you’ll create together.
If you have separated from a partner or had a divorce, there may be some re-bonding to do with your child if they are splitting time between parents. This gives you the chance to find some common interests or to explore completely new ones together.
No arguments, lots of smiles
This is particularly valid if you are coming out of a divorce or separation. Take your time to enjoy the bliss of a household that’s not being fractured by arguments. Living amongst fights and quarrels is exhausting for all concerned, so while being a single mother or father can be tough, it would be tougher to stay together and continue fighting.
Your child’s support network will grow
By choice or not, being a single parent automatically gets the troops rallying around to help. Your family and friends are sure to want to offer help and support when they can. This can instil some real comfort into your child and make them feel surrounded by love and care. 💖
You will make lasting, important friendships
Nothing quite bonds adults like taking on single motherhood or fatherhood. Whether it’s bumping into new pals in the school car park or taking the kids on weekend playdates together, expect to be swapping single-parent advice pronto along with exchanging the highs and lows of taking on this mega feat alone.
Your child will look up to you as an independent parent
Over time, your child will see what and how much you do for them. They will value this so much and will also learn that it’s totally fine and manageable to move through life without a partner.
There’s no ‘I’ in team
Let’s be honest, looking after a child and a household is no small task. Don’t be scared of asking your little star to help you around the house; they’ll appreciate the responsibility and also learn how to be independent. Try rewarding them for chipping in with the chores and treat them like you’re both part of a team.
Tips for being a single parent
Being a parent, single or not, is difficult, and you can often face times when you feel like you’re not doing a good enough job. But you are. However, if you’re seeking a little guidance and advice, we’ve got you.
Open the communication lines
Lean on friends and family
Don’t forget you
Find the right childcare
Stick to a routine
Celebrities on being a single parent
Some of the world’s biggest celebrities are single parents and they’re more than happy about it, so let these inspirational words motivate you into becoming the best single parent you can be. 🤗